Have you ever had the sense that dis-ease was in control of your life? Perhaps this is not a chronic illness at all. Do you harbor resentment? Resentment? Frustration?
1. Recognize Your Energy
We’ve all heard of the aura that surrounds the body, but what possible connection does this have to our health? According to Carolyn Myss in her audio program “Why People Don’t Heal,” it is through this energetic exchange that our thoughts become translated into energy (or what she refers to as one’s biography becoming their biology). These energy cycles or waves that surround our body are a result of our thoughts. Thus, thoughts are energy waves that have a positive or negative effect on our health. Consider the following to understand why this occurs:
The seven major “chakras” contribute to the energy that surrounds the body (chakra in Sanskrit means “wheel or vortex”). It’s worth noting that Myss refers to each energy wheel as a “computer,” one that gathers and interprets data and “perceptions” the mind has about the world. Each of these seven energy wheels has been scientifically proven to correspond to a specific endocrine gland in the body. In light of the adage “you are what you eat,” we can safely conclude that “you are what you think.”
2. Heal Past Wounds
After you’ve examined your thoughts and converted all of your negative energy to positive, Myss throws another curve ball. Would you concur with her assessment that “healing is unappealing?” I needed some time to consider this: Why would healing be unappealing?
Myss’s response: Our wounds empower us! And, after much deliberation, I’ve outlined three methods by which I’ve accomplished this myself.
Consider the following: Are you leading with your wounds? You will be aware if you have committed any of the following:
1. Manipulated a Situation or a Person Using Wounds.
Assume we find a situation unsavory, frightening, or triggering a personal “hot button.” Have you ever avoided confronting a situation that you really needed to confront? Or how about this one: “I’m unable to enter this relationship – I’ve already been burned!” Perhaps I’m speaking to myself here, but I admit that I’ve used my wounds (more times than I’d like to admit) to avoid unconditional love.
2. Use Them to Attract Additional Wounded Souls Interested in Trading in the “Wound” Game.
I’ve also done this. I’ve traded compassion for wound ante – “I’ll see you and raise you one” – after listening to another share their wounds. While there is a distinction between healing from a wound and “leading with a wound,” in my humble opinion, I’d wager that we all understand the difference between being healthy and being unhealthy. For instance, I know I’m healthy when I can listen empathically without reaching for my toolbox to “fix” or uninvitedly laying out my wounds.
3. Abandon Our Capacity to Listen.
According to Dr. Bernie Siegel’s book “Peace, Love, and Healing,” listening is the work of angels. Oftentimes, listening is all we have when someone approaches us for assistance. If we express what Ms. Myss refers to as “woundology” or “leading with our wounds,” we are expressing our inability to bear the loss of power and our desire for complete attention to ourselves.
Given that I’m hanging out all of my laundry here today (and what would Myss say about this?) Here’s an illustration of how I’ve dealt with my wounds: Someone recently confided in me about a situation in which they had suffered the loss of a loved one. My mind searched its experiences for a comparable event while I listened attentively. All of this so I could say, “Oh, that’s awful!” Don’t feel bad, because I’ve been through something far worse!”
However, in order to reclaim my character (and after realizing what was happening), I caught myself. In reality, all this person required was my undivided attention.
3. Develop an Ability to Forgive Oneself and Others
The final two steps are self-help remedies for anger, resentment, and frustration. Thus, step three is simply forgiveness. Forgiveness in earnest, on the other hand, diverts our energy away from its emotional investment in the past. We abstain from wasting energy by making negative deposits into this account, which, according to Myss, is the quickest way to bring our energy into real time. Translation: Believe me, you will recognize genuine forgiveness when you experience it. The body literally “releases” the burden of the past.
4. Compassionately Love Yourself
Is this the final creative step in the healing process? Of course, loving yourself! This, in my opinion, is the most difficult concept. Why? To begin, we must accept and love ourselves as we are today. How is this beneficial to our health? It’s simple; once we recognize how negative self talk is impeding our personal growth and health, we can begin to love ourselves one piece at a time.
Here’s how it’s done (Author’s note: while this practice may appear unconventional at first glance, if you consult Louise L. Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life,” you’ll discover that this is one of the remedies she used to heal herself of cancer):
Every day, spend 15 minutes in front of the mirror sending yourself love! Begin small by identifying one area of yourself in which you can achieve perfection. Choose new aspects of yourself to love each day, week, or month. Soon, an image of perfection will appear before your eyes. Additionally, you will have cleansed your energy!
Finally, we could simplify all of these steps considerably. For there is only one step in this direction that will result in your health and happiness. Bear in mind that it is only when we learn to love ourselves that we can truly be healed.
Carolyn Myss, Ph.D. Why People Do Not Heal. 2001, Colorado. True Audio Sound.
Bernie Siegel, M.D. Peace, Love, and Healing 1989, New York: HarperCollins.
You Can Heal Your Life, Louise L. Hay. Hay House, 2004. California.